As we move into 2011, I know many of us are making plans to go after our dreams. That being said I wanted to post an inspirational video to get you feeling inspired and positive about tackling your goals in the year ahead. The video is an excerpt from the movie, “The Pursuit of Happyness” starring, Will Smith. It is a rousing, true-life story of a single dad who went from living on the streets to owning his own brokerage firm. Set in San Francisco in the early 80’s, the film charts the hard times and eventual comeback of Chris Gardner, a salesman who has custody of his son, but finds providing for the two of them challenging in a increasingly unstable economic climate. He struggles to work his way from an unpaid intern at Dean Witter to something more substantial, even as life continues to offer him setbacks. If you’ve seen the movie, then you already know the entire movie is inspirational, however, this small clip reminds us why we should always protect our dreams, and never believe the naysayers. Whatever you want in life, go after it without hesitation, and don’t let anyone stop you.
The video clip speaks to the power of endurance. While playing basketball, Chris Gardner tells his son to forget basketball and do something useful. Realizing the mistake of what he said, Chris tells his son, “Don’t ever let someone tell you, you can’t do something. Not even me.” He wants his son to know that a persistent pursuit of your own dreams is the best way to bring a sense of happiness to your life.
In order to achieve your dreams you must have endurance. Endurance is the ability to keep going when things get difficult. It is the ability to ‘bounce back’ when faced with life’s storms. People with endurance persist when others pack it in. It is a key skill that leads to success. You differentiate yourself when you’re tough and committed to whatever you set out to accomplish. In order to maintain endurance you must always examine the people you have in your inner circle. You must recognize the type of people who are in your life. In other words, you need to check your company.
There are four kinds of people: Adders, Subtractors, Multipliers and Dividers. What are you? What about the people you spend time with? What category do your spouse, parents, sisters, brothers or friends belong to? Do they encourage and challenge you or do they drain you? Do they make you a better person, or further damage you? Once you learn who is in your inner circle you must learn to manage them. A happy, healthy relationship is one in which both people are growing. One of the most basic needs in life is relationships, and virtually all blessings come through these relationships. But unfortunately our world also includes Subtractors and Dividers. They are not necessarily enemies or strangers. Often times they are the people who love us. They just don’t realize they fit the mold. Fortunately in the clip Chris Gardner realized he was a Subtractor. He obviously loves his son and was trying to protect him from heartache and pain, but in actuality his words teaches him to give up on his dreams.
Just as in the video clip, every one of us has been told by someone that our dreams were unattainable, inappropriate, or just plain silly. Some of us believed those people and gave up on our dreams. Gardner’s advice to his son is something we all ought to remember, “You got a dream, you got to protect it. People can’t do something themselves, they want to tell you that you can’t do it. You want something? Go get it. Period.”
So as you plan for your dreams in 2011 remember to do these three things:
- Protect your dreams from those who say you cannot do it (even yourself)
- Be prepared for the resistance that will come as you pursue them
- Go get it with all your heart and all you have to give
The most important thing that you can take away from this is that nobody has the power to take away your dreams unless you give it to them. So stop giving your power and your dreams away. Making your dreams reality is one of the most precious gifts that we are blessed with. Hold on tight and never let them go…EVER… no matter what it takes. It is the steadfast pursuit of a meaningful dream that sets the table for those moments of great “happy-ness” when they arrive. A resilient approach to life is something everyone can do. It just takes a deeper need to succeed. Believing in something is the first step towards making something good happen. It’s the belief that causes you to take the subsequent steps that lead you to become the person you want to be, and realize the success that you’ve always dreamed of!
Have an awesome 2011. Be inspired!
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Four Kinds Of People: Which One Are You?
Adders:
- Adders bring positive influence into your life with no strings attached.
- They are interested in helping you become a well-rounded well-balanced person.
- Adders always try to help you grow and mature; they always try to help you increase your determination.
- Adders don’t break their way into your life; you have to let them in. They come in to add to what is already there.
- Adders help you to venture outside of your comfort zone.
Subtractors:
- Subtractors will always take away from you.
- They leave your life lacking and fragmented; they will suck life out of you.
- Subtractors work to strip you of your confidence, resources, joy, peace of mind, self-esteem and all God has given you positively.
- Subtractors can be subtle; they may subtract from you little by little.
Dividers:
*Most manipulative, deceptive and dangerous
- The mission of a Divider is to dismantle your goals, visions and dreams through distractions and false purposes.
- They will come in and get you off track and onto something else that has nothing to do with what God has called you to do. They will separate you from people who can help you achieve your purpose.
- Dividers are insecure people who prey on others to make themselves feel better; they are intimated by your competence.
- They will work overtime to keep the adders and multipliers from getting into your life; Dividers will try to keep you from everybody that can help you.
Multipliers:
- Multipliers are people who will help you break through when the ceiling gets too hard.
- They multiply into your life; they increase, double, add to and amplify you.
- Multipliers are caring and sincere; they have a gift of discovering people’s potential and purpose and work with them to help them to fulfill it; they coach you to success.
- Multipliers know how to deliver a hard word when necessary.
- They tend to stay away from people who seem to have all the answers, an argument for everything and people who always talk about themselves.
- Multipliers wrap their arms around you when everything looks bleak and black in your life.
- They challenge you to see success outside of your comfort zone but also supports you along the way.